Blah blah blah blah great content.
Blah blah blah blah regular postings.
That may get you some readers and some respect. But it won’t make you sexy!
Here’s what will:
Responding to comments made on your blog and commenting on other blogs!
It’s hot! Commenting shows the world that you’re not the outcast you think they think you are.
Just think, a real person read your post and found it compelling enough to take the time to compose a note to you. Not a generic note, a personal one just for you in response to something you wrote. It’s quite a big deal actually. It’s a little gift for you in your mailbox. Are you maybe too cool to comment? That’s not cool, that’s just lonely. Buzzkill. For both you and me.
I’m not sure people realize they have the option to disable comments, that way any thoughtful, interested commenters won’t bother them. Some blogs do have their comments turned off, but it’s usually because they have become very big and the blogger no longer wishes to deal with the volume of comments. And if you don’t throw your readers a crumb now and then in the form of a comment, you are assuring that a healthy readership will never burden you. Following are some more reasons that commenting is sexy. It’s not mysterious—but expect magic.
- Discussing your views shows that you’re mature enough to interact like a grownup but still have a life-affirming sense of adventure. You like to meet new minds. It gives you a boost because humans are your species. Remember, before everything else, people wrote letters.
- Commenting shows you have good manners. It’s classy.
- Commenting shows you have sensitivity. Women love that. It’s a big turn-on for everybody. Humans like to think that someone gives a shit about they think.
- Commenting shows you have style. Communicating with another blogger can be daunting but you overcome it. It’s a risk, but isn’t it a small one? It takes a bit of grace and tact. We fall down. We get up.
The sexiest blogger I know has white hair and is happily married! But because he always responds to comments in an articulate and respectful way, and is a pleasure to exchange ideas with, he wins the honor. And recently I have met a few sexy bloggers who do not even have photos posted, so I don’t know what they look like. So you see it doesn’t matter. Okay I admit I’m curious.
I know it’s not easy. But just try it—it’s like adding a daily shake of sparklies to your life. I’m pretty sure that’s why people do it, right? Enliven thyself!